So I have been struggling with pornography and masturbation for almost ten years now. Like most men in my situation, I thought getting married would solve the problem, it didn't. But I haven't been getting steadily worse since getting married. I've looked off and on at pornography over the three years of my marriage. I also believe there is something wrong with my wifes sex drive, or mine, I'm sure it's mine. But at the same time, she doesn't seem to desire me. Or I'm sure I'm just misreading her desire. There's also the fact that I feel she takes me for granted and all that I do for her. I clam up and can't say what's on my mind when I try and tell her how I feel. and she's so stubborn that I just cave and let her do what she wants, which is usually sleep, which she's doing right now while I'm wound up (in more than one way). So I'm really confessing more than one thing here; the fact that I've been dealing with pornography and masturbation and am willing to let a potentially bad situation get worse just to keep this fact hidden, and that I'm dissatisfied with my marriage. Now, I'm not contemplating divorce or an affair, I'm just at a loss as to how I can fix this thing before we end up bringing a child into this mess. I'm afraid to talk to anyone who has any real experience here. Wait, I'm afraid to actually try something, period. Why does this have to be so difficult?